Hey Queens & Superwomen!
This week it has been on my mind to address our worth as women. Our worth can sometimes get lost in the shuffle; we juggle motherhood, careers, being wives/significant others and other miscellaneous roles that take precedence over our hectic lives. It becomes a situation of losing “one’s worth.”
Say this to yourself: ” I am one who sets boundaries. I am one who has the courage to love myself. I am one to win even after facing obstacles and disappointment. I am one that loves myself no matter what,”
What is worth in your opinion? Is it the values you have? Could it be the perceptions that you have developed througout your life? Possibly is it your ability to relate to others sensitivity and needs? Well….it is all of this and more! Our worth derives from what we were instilled with and how we perceive the lessons taught. This makes us ladies “diamonds in the rough.” We sparkle and shine to the extent that we become unnoticed. Therefore, it is pertinent that we set boundaries for ourselves.
Proverbs 31:10 states that ” A good woman is hard to find and is far worth more than diamonds. Her totality is in who she is.” From this verse we can clearly interpret that we as women are more than our bodies. We are expression beyond emphasis!
As women it is so natural for us to put our feelings, desires, and needs on the back burner to take care of everyone else. This had lead us to be indirectly put in situations in which we are abandoning ourselves and becoming walked over without even realizing it. It is hard to recognize because we are inherently good in nature and have been taught to put others before ourselves.
Unlearning & Becoming that Shining Diamond at the Pinnacle!
How do you begin to unlearn the programming that has become “natural” and “inherent?” It is not easy to undo something that has been taught. In order to do so, you must be willing to connect with your inner self and listen to that inner voice that we so often suppress.
Do not place your worth in someone else’s hands; determine your worth at your own terms! We are often told that we only “want to be wanted” especially when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex. We want to be accepted in sexual relationships, careers, sports, etc. To be told that our worth is basically “to be wanted,” is vague. This description leaves us as women back to that shallow role of being the “people pleaser.” In this role we are fighting our way up the corporate ladder or killing ourselves to prove that we are as good as men at sports. Lastly, we all have faced the aspect of going above and beyond to be sexually appealing to our mates. Yes, we “want to be wanted” in many areas of life. But we also are worth more than this single shallow description. Unlearning this thought takes time, reflection, and constant feedback of one’s self.
In actuality, a woman’s worth is determined by her character. This includes how she carries herself, her values, the respect she has for herself and others, and her ability to relate to others based on their needs. It is not just to be wanted. It is the recognition of knowing yourself, your abilities, and your dramatis personae (disposition.)
Shiny you are….never allow your brightness to fade away nor flicker!
Woman’s Worth and Perception Questionnaire
As I close out this blog, I would like to have you reflect on yourself by answering the following questions. I would love to hear your responses so please feel free to send me comments. I enjoy the responses that I do receive! I hope that this week’s message has been a blessing to you and has given you endurance and motivation. You all are that shiny diamond that shines at the pinnacle!
- What’s your favorite part of being a woman?
- Who do you admire most in life and why?
- We have many struggles as women; which has been your hardest struggle to overcome?
- How did you overcome this struggle or is it something you are still dealing with?
- What’s the most common compliment you receive?
- How does it make you feel when you receive this compliment?
- How do you feel we as women are represented in society?
- What is a stereotype about women that truly affects you?
- Do you enjoy your life or do you just live for the moment?
- What is one vision that you have?
- What is one aspect of your day that is meant just for you?
- How do you feel about your physical appearance?
- Do you feel loved and valued?
- What are the traits of your worth? ( Personality, humor, hard working, etc)
- Do you value having relationships with other women?
” The woman is to be admired and praised. Charm can mislead and beauty will fade. A woman however that is worthwhile will always speak with gentleness, speak with kindness, and she will always be valuable.”
Thank you Queens! I hope you get something out of this message.